I’m over 30 and I’ve never been in a relationship. At this point, I’m not even embarrassed about it anymore — I’m just genuinely curious how it actually happens.
I’m not against dating. I’ve tried. I’ve used dating apps, talked to people, and even met up a few times. But most of the time, it feels like everyone is just looking for something casual.
And when they realize I’m not interested in hookups, they just disappear.
It’s become this exhausting cycle — download the apps, talk to new people, hear the same lines over and over again, lose interest, delete everything… and then repeat.
Now I don’t even feel like replying to messages anymore. I don’t feel like meeting people either.
But at the same time, I do want a relationship. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older, but I really want to experience what it’s like to be with someone.
I just don’t understand how it works for other people. How do people actually meet someone, build something real, and end up in a relationship?
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